FUSE TV - Lost Angeles: Long Distance Romance Is Hard (But Not Impossible!)

The story you are about to read is true. The names have been changed to protect the guilty. I’m not a doctor or an expert and I’m certainly not always right.

It’s been two weeks since High & Dry drove away from my apartment and I doubled over in pain. I knew saying goodbye was going to be hard and it was, but all I feel today is complete love. There is a comfort surrounding me that somehow resonates as more steady and concrete than many of my past relationships, even my first one with him. 

A month ago I wasn’t sure if I had the strength built up to withstand the jealousy, FOMO and hardships that come with a relationship, let alone the long distance variety. But now, I realize it wasn’t up to me to be ready; it happened on its own. Somehow, during the trial run of our long distance situation (my two weeks away for work) our relationship grew deeper, more secure, and this intensified my feelings for H&D. He helped secure my faith in us. 

The numerous hours-long conversations during our time apart, the photo exchanges and the splash of dirty talk was not only a helpful promise that we could get through our time apart in months to come, it even made me wonder if the distance isn’t somehow more beneficial. Is it possible that this could work better because the pressures of seeing one another, balancing the my place or yours? act and social obligations won’t be an issue? If Los Angeles proved to be too busy to make time to date before, is this a suitable compromise? 

Now that we’ve said our goodbyes and been apart for another two weeks I’ve found a couple of things to be true, both in research and in practice. Creating a space for love isn’t solely about physical closeness (while it is definitely a huge added benefit)—it’s more about emotional connection. A space that isn’t delineated on a physical plane, but constructed on a solid emotional foundation in our hearts and minds, allowing us a closeness that people who exist in the same space physically might not even approach on an emotional plane. Cue Kidnap Kid.